Channel Your Chi: 6 Chinese Medicine Fertility Tips


Sexual energy is pure, creative life force. It has the potential to create not only deep, raw feelings, intense physical connection, and inspired expressions of creativity, but also a human being! If you’re trying to enhance your fertility to conceive, learning how to awaken and nourish this life-affirming energy this will make all the difference in achieving your goal.

Most important in the following Chinese Medicine fertility tips: The Kidneys

According to Chinese medicine, the Kidneys rule sexual, life force energy in both men and women. Kidney energy dictates when a woman will get her period, the quality and quantity of her egg stores, and when she will go through menopause. The Kidneys govern libido in men and women, sperm and egg health, and overall vitality.

The story about Kidneys and money

Interestingly, in addition to relating to sexual energy, the Kidneys pertain to feelings of fear and having or not having enough resources, like money and power. If you think about it, it’s hard to feel sexy when you’re worrying about paying the bills, or feeling powerless.

It may sound strange, but taking an honest look at your finances, with your partner or on your own, might help get to the root of any fertility issues or low libido.

I’ve worked with many couples who were able to conceive after facing their financial worries and making a clear plan to feel confident and resourced.

 Strengthen your kidney-heart connection

Kidney energy performs differently in men and women, from a Chinese medicine point of view.

While men lose Kidney energy every time they ejaculate, women can strengthen their Kidney energy through more frequent sexual activity, especially if they are consciously bringing sexual energy into their heart space.

Increasing the connection between the Heart and the Kidneys is key to nourishing fertility and raising libido in women.

Try visualizing white light flowing between the center of your chest and an area about two inches below your navel known as your Dan Tien during meditation, during an orgasm, or both.

The night my husband and I finally conceived our first child, after a year of trying, I remember we had a conversation that made me feel deeply emotionally connected to him. I know that Heart nourishing experience played a big role in strengthening my fertility.


How to take care of you kidney energy

While men lose Kidney energy every time they ejaculate, women lose Kidney energy when they give birth. For this reason, it is imperative that a woman gives herself at least two years between pregnancies to recover her Qi, Blood, Yin, and Yang.

Both women and men can also lose Kidney energy through excessive sweating, bleeding, standing, stress, or prolonged illness.

I always advise my patients to skip hot yoga that induces too much sweating and try Yin Yoga instead, which is hormone balancing and nourishing to the Kidneys.

You’ve probably heard of adrenal fatigue, which comes from enduring prolonged stress levels. Well, the adrenal glands sit right on top of—you guessed it—the kidneys!

To protect your Kidney energy, become aware of when you are exhausting your body and explore effective strategies to regularly reduce stress and increase self-care rituals.

Access sexual energy through your feet

Every organ system in Chinese medicine corresponds to a part of the body, and the Kidneys relate to the feet.

Giving extra love and attention to your feet and your partner’s feet can help awaken libido and nourish Kidney energy.

Try taking turns giving foot massages with your partner as part of your foreplay. Or simply indulging in a foot bath with a few drops of lavender or jasmine essential oil will do the trick, too.

What’s the best time to have sex?

Just as every part of the body corresponds to an organ in Chinese medicine, so does every hour of the day.

While the Kidney time of day is 5:00pm-7:00pm, the organ system responsible for sex and circulation is the Pericardium, also known as the Heart Protector.

The best time to have sex with your partner is between 7:00pm-9:00pm, during the Pericardium time of day, when the circulation of your sexual energy is at its peak and the most in tune with your Heart energy.

What should I do, if I’m older than 35?

Speaking of the Heart, referred to as the Emperor in Chinese medicine, I’d say it’s the second most important organ system that contributes to healthy sexuality and fertility.

After age 35, a woman enters into the Heart phase of her life, also known as the Empress phase.

During this time, the Heart fire flares up and loses steady communication with the cooling water aspect of the Kidneys. Hormone levels fluctuate leading to irregular periods, mood swings, and fertility issues.

Plus, mirroring the instability of her Heart fire, she is usually grappling with big questions such as how can she become more of her authentic self, what will her life mean if she doesn’t have a baby, how does she want to contribute to the world and live her life, and so on.

Honestly answering these questions and embracing this phase of evolvement is crucial to restoring communication between the Heart and Kidneys, and therefore her fertility.

In other words, becoming right within herself, or the Queen of her own Heart, will unlock hidden stories of her fertile potential, more of who she really is, also known as Kidney Jing, leading her to sexual empowerment and a higher chance of conceiving a baby.

Organic Dildos: All about Healthy and Ecofriendly Masturbation (2016 Edition)


I know what you are thinking. Organic dildos? Is she now discussing which vegetables are best suited for our lovely vaginas? Not exactly.

What I wanted to put out there is some awareness-raising regarding dildos. When we make love to ourselves, we want to treat our vaginas the best way we can, right? Ever thought about the toxins which might be inside your pink Chinese-made dildo?

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Hooray Boobies! The Benefits of Falling in Love With Your Breasts


This podcast episode is dedicated to all my beautiful female listeners and to all open minded breast owners out there.

Let me ask you a question: Do you hooray your boobs?

Breasts are the manifestation of our heart; our nipples are the very first thing that enter a room. They radiate and absorb. They are an organ of pleasure. They feed babies and nourish souls. They come in all kinds of fun shapes, sizes and colors.  Read more

The 8 Female Orgasms: #4 Cervical Orgasm


Did you know? Orgasms can transport you to another state of consciousness! An awe-like state that almost makes you forget yourself! We are talking about cervical orgasm.

The cervix lies within. It’s the deep center of the vagina or what Kim Anami calls the “gateway of life”. In Taoist reflexology the cervix is the heart point in women. When this center is being massaged we often react through emotions. Some women feel pain, and have the need to cry, some women feel joy and have the need to laugh. Whatever lies in our heart, it wants to express itself.

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Shame – The Scary but Rewarding Journey of Working Through Your Shadows


Do you love uncomfortable moments so that you can work through your shit? Most people don’t. By the way, shit here stands for: emotional shadow, shame, fear, guilt, worries and other scary emotions.

I know a few folks (but in my experience that’s a rare species :-)) who love, seek or even put themselves voluntarily into uncomfortable situations so that they can work through their own stuff quicker.

How do you love and accept yourself and let go of shame and guilt?

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Squirting – 5 Myths Finally Busted


Most people know about squirting or female ejaculation from porn and adult magazines. There is still a lot of woowoo and shame projected on to what I consider to be magical sexual expression. Squirting is the explulsion of fluid by the Skene’s gland, through and around the female urethra during or before an orgasm. More mystical sources say it’s a divine liquid that in i’ts essence manifests pure sexual energy.

The latest scientific research says, that it’s “involuntary pee”. Which of course increases the shame dimension that keeps women away from exploring this phenomenon.

That’s why I decided to create a video for you to finally bust the 5 myths for you and create a safe and clear pathway to this sexy, splashy and liberating squirting fun.

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I bow in awe to the world of Conscious Sexuality, because it’s a wonderful explorative space with amazing people in it. Every day I dig deeper and deeper, meeting new courageous souls. That’s how I met a true pioneer who has been on this path for decades. Namely Kenneth Ray Stubbs, Ph.D.

His fascinating story starts in a semi-rural area of the American South; when he moved to San Fransisco after the days of the hippies Kenneth started to embrace his sexuality as a new way for him to transform as a human. He started teaching and studying Erotic Massage as one of the first on the scene; he produced “The Sacred Prostitute” documentary and today is a so-called Sexual Shaman and Crystal Whisperer.

Ray has been studying sexual empowerment and sexual energies for so many years – that’s why he is the perfect guest for my podcast.

This episode is an amazing opportunity for you to listen to the wisdom, expertise and mindblowing insights of a Sexual Shaman.  Read more

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Do you know the feeling when you are holding back from true connection? This can be in daily-life communication with your friends, in meeting strangers, and also in the bedroom with your partner. The reason is always the same: Shame.

The beautiful city of Barcelona, and talking to many “strangers” inspired me to talk more about this subject. It’s crucial that we don’t continue to ignore this sensation. I’d like to encourage you shedding light on it and deal with shame, with the help of those three steps.

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Guys: Cure “Death Grip” and Increase Sensitivity by Avoiding these 5 Masturbation Mistakes

death grip

Mariah approached me asking if I could write a bit of a more extensive answer to the issue of death grip – because it is asked for again and again. Here’s my experience from a man’s perspective:

Fact is: many men lose sensitivity in their penis. Which sadly enough seems a bit like a cure for the other most famous mens’ syndrome: premature ejaculation (PE). But guys, let’s not accept this as a solution at all. We do want to last long, but we also do want to have the full pleasure while we’re lasting amazingly long, don’t we? Would be a fun killer if not.

This desensitization, also called “death grip” sneaks in when you’re on your own, masturbating. That’s why the following tips unavoidably enter your bedroom. Or are we talking about the desk?

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