Your sex drive is your own personal truth teller.
It tells you exactly where you’re at – physically, emotionally, energetically, mentally and yes, even spiritually. It’s not just the itch that makes you wanna jump into bed with your lover, it’s also the urge for living, the source of your vitality in life in general. Obviously there is no objective way to measure your drive, but we typically decide for ourselves whether our vitality is low or high.
Around 30% of women between the age of 18-44 feel that they struggle with their sex drive and the older they get, the higher this percentage gets.
Let’s have a look at how your sex drive (low & high) influences your life.
1. Low Sex Drive Can Make You Attract The Wrong Things at the Wrong Time
Low sex drive is like being a rocket without fuel. The rocket becomes purposeless. This is how low libido can feel, empty and without purpose. We start to dwell on negative thoughts. We may become jealous of others who are full of life, enthusiasm and fuel. We may get grumpy, frustrated and just wanna hide in our little nest. Low sex drive can build up a resonance that constantly attracts the wrong things at the wrong time. As if we were out of balance. Without flow. Over time we become chronic pessimists and circle even deeper down.
Sexy Figureoutable: Acknowledge those emotions and ask yourself how you actually want to feel. Plan your day around this feeling and do whatever gives you this feeling.
2. Low Sex Drive Can Make You Become Sick Even Though You Are Healthy
Do you have chronic fatigue and the constant feeling that something is wrong with you? Obviously check in with your doctor and make sure everything is alright. But also consider this: If you punish yourself constantly because you feel that you are out of juice, be aware that this thought might eventually manifest itself as a disease. We create our own reality with our thoughts.
Sexy Figureoutable: Assess your energies. Ask yourself why they are low. Awareness sheds light into the darkness, and it’s the first step for healing.
3. Low Sex Drive Can Make You Slide Into Relationship Trouble
You might not even be aware of this: if your relationship is constantly in tension because one of the partners lacks vitality and sex drive, it may lead to an imbalance that slowly, slowly makes cracks in your relationship bond. Your relationship drying up doesn’t just mean that there is no more physical connection, it may also mean that your polarity, the attraction towards each other is fading away.
Sexy Figureoutable: Connect with each other. Talk about your needs and desires. Stay open to trying out something new.
4. Low Sex Drive Can Lead To Stagnating Evolution
Being out of juice can lead to a slowdown in your personal evolution. We may lack visionary thoughts, and vital goals that motivate us to get up in the morning and feel enthusiastic. This obviously requires energy and fuel.
Sexy Figureoutable: Do yoga, have a fun morning routine, something that motivates you to get out of bed (instead of opening your Instagram straight away). Or hire a coach who helps you to get back on track with your visions and dreams.
5. Low Sex Drive Can Push You Towards A Self-destructive Body Image
Low sex drive can lead to an unhealthy body image. Which means you slowly, slowly disconnect from your sexual self. Low self-esteem is actually deeply rooted in low libido. It’s almost as if we don’t let ourselves have a strong libido because we are afraid of putting ourselves out there. We tell ourselves that we are not worth allowing ourselves to shine.
Sexy Figureoutable: Start working on your physical condition. Eat balanced and healthy. Do regular sports, something physical that reestablishes your connection with your body.
6. High Sex Drive Makes You Ride the Optimism Wave
A high sex drive opens the door for finding the other side of the rainbow. When we are full of energy we are able to let it spill over. Share love and abundance with everyone around us. In those times we are riding the optimistic flow of courage. We put ourselves out there and share our dreams with the world. We attract the good and the positive.
Sexy Figureoutable: Use this time to set an intention, to help the world become a better place. Help people in need. Yes, you can – be the next Gandhi.
7. High Sex Drive Makes You Feel Freakin Healthy & Vital
All doctors know. A healthy sex drive means a healthy body. Your body is very clever and whenever you become ill it channels vital energies towards healing and saves on extra pleasures, such as the desire for sex.
Sexy Figureoutable: Be grateful for your health and vitality. And make sure you sustain it by taking care of your body with sports, diet and de-stressing hobbies such as going out into nature.
8. High Sex Drive Improves Your Relationship Vibe & Makes It Flourish
We all know it deep down. Regular, passionate and deep intimate sex is a good sign of a flourishing relationship. Kiss, love, play, worship…
Sexy Figureoutable: You are riding a high right now? Great, be open to trying out something new to avoid stagnation. Maybe you’ve always wanted to make love out of doors, go ahead, experiment, be creative!
9. High Sex Drive Makes You Live Your Desire
All big leaders have a secret: it’s their drive. Without a sex drive we wouldn’t be able to manifest our desires, reach goals, get the lover we desire. In ancient Asian tradition the sex drive is your vital force. It helps you to accomplish things. It makes you get up again even when you fall. It motivates, excites, yes, it’s the force for abundance.
Sexy Figureoutable: You have a high sex drive. Great, use it! Channel this energy into your desired project by setting an intention.
10. High Sex Drive Makes You Feel Connected With Your Sexual Self
This is my personal favorite. Feeling connected with your sexual self makes you feel at peace. High drive can be a great opportunity to connect yourself with your sexual self. The grounded soul that manifest, yearns, desires, fulfills. Purpose, baby.
Once we connect to this essence we are fully at ease and simply want to be. It’s the freedom from guilt and shame and the healing state of unconditional love. You figured it out!
Make sure you check out my Libido School, an online programme for supercharging female sex drive holistically.